Remember, you have only failed when you give up, so you have not yet failed if you do not give up. You still need to know what to do when you are faced with failure. It takes a lot of courage to look failure in the eye and decide to carry on anyway. “Blips” or “hiccoughs” along the way happen to everyone, even the most successful people. Success is waiting the other side of these perceived failures. You need to know how to use seemingly negative circumstances to your advantage.
What is Failure?
It is a good thing to get a definition of what failure means for you, in your mind. It should change the way you look at it, and help you put it into perspective. Most people consider failure to be when their outcome was worse, or the opposite of what they had intended. Failure is always a result of something. There is never a result without a cause. Failure usually occurs in only one facet of the outcome, it is seldom all-inclusive. What this means is that something you did or tried, needs changing to produce a different outcome, more in line with what you want. It means there are still things to learn and space to grow. It should never mean that there is no hope. Failure is never intentional, but it happens. We cannot know all the facets of every situations or thing. We can never know and understand everything. We need to be constantly learning, improving and growing. Failure just points out another area for potential growth and development.
Use the Energy of Anger and Hurt Positively
Your immediate reaction when you are faced with failure, is probably a mixture of anger and hurt, especially when adverse comments and criticism are added to the equation. These emotions produce a tremendous amount of energy. You know how your muscles tense, your breathing and heartbeat increase, your thoughts run at a mile a minute, you are totally focused, you cannot even think of anything else. Instead of fuming, rehearsing the problem, bewailing the unfairness, thinking of vengeance or speaking your mind to everyone, use that energy to focus and brainstorm new ideas. You will be surprised how sharp your mind is when it comes to avoiding pain. You will get new ideas. Think of things YOU can do. Look for positive ideas, not retribution. Make sure you write all your thoughts down. These will give you a good start in rectifying the situation and starting over.
When you are faced with failure, always take responsibility for what happened. Go through each step of the events. Take note of the things you did right as well as the things you might have done wrong. Try and pinpoint the thing that caused your adverse outcome. See what can be salvaged and what should be shelved or changed. Few things are total failures, note the things you did do right and build on them.
Strong Mental Character Will Always Come Back From Failure
You need to know your identity is not in failure, you are far more than that. Once you have worked it out and come through the other side of failure, you will always be stronger, you will also have grown and developed character. You will understand yourself and your situation better, your coping skills would have improved. It takes a strong character to risk failure, try anyway and take responsibility for the results.
Failure need never be final. When you face it responsibly it will turn into a very dynamic opportunity for growth, new ideas and change. You will find yourself less critical and more sympathetic of others facing problems and you will discover new ways of promoting yourself and serving others. When you are faced with failure, use the situations as stepping stones on your road to the future you desire.